adminWhen I was a student, a senior once told me to always choose for myself. He said it doesn’t matter what others want. You have to choose what’s best for you. Ever since I was 18, this has stuck with me. Not until I read a simple yet profound sentence did I realize why choosing yourself matters.
I once read or heard that you are the only person who has to live with you for the rest of your life. That’s a truth that hits like a cruise missile. Straight on target with high impact. No one else in the world- not your parents, not your partner, not your kids, not your best friend has to live with you as much as you do.
Every moment that you are alive, you are with yourself. That means you have to deal with all the shit that comes on your path. Sometimes you can share a burden. But either way, you will always be part of your own mess. That also means that if you want to climb out of your mess, you can get help, but the burden is on you.
If you’re not satisfied with how things go in life, then you can look at other people or external factors all you want. I’m not saying that outside elements can’t be a part of the problem. I’m saying that you are part of the solution.
One small shift in mindset can move a mountain. You have to deal with your misery 24/7. That also means that you are the only one who has control over that hardship. Start with figuring out what’s good for you long term. Then choose the options that help you out the most, in the long run. Don’t let other people’s wishes control what you should choose, because they don’t have to deal with you as much as you do.